Brides to be frequently ask us what exactly do bridesmaids do other than appear in the wedding party?
The answer is - they support you throughout the planning and are there on the big day. Having said that, exactly what does "support" mean? Know that it means different things to different folks.
If you are planning a big wedding there are tons of details to cover and decisions to be made. The input of good friends can make many of those decisions easier. Presumably, the friends and relatives you've asked to be a member of your wedding party, are people that care for you and are willing to help with plans and events. It is wise to be clear about your expectations up front so that there are no surprises.
Let attendants know about your expectations. Give them the dates, the list of activities that are likely to occur. Let them know when you plan to gather the group for gown selections. You may wish to seek their input on gown choices/ colors. Be sure to let them know what you are thinking in terms of degree of formality and silhouettes or looks.
The maid of honor is usually the "go to" person for the bride and the rest of the attendants. She should coordinate dress fittings, attend or host all pre wedding events and help with any DIY projects. Some brides ask attendants to help with addressing and stuffing wedding invitations. The day of - she is one who helps the bride to dress, takes care of the emergency kit and gathers other attendants for photos. She may ask other bridesmaids to assume some of those duties or run last minute errands.
Many brides are reluctant to ask attendants for help with wedding planning details. If that is the case, consider hiring a wedding coordinator for day-of events or a certified wedding planner for help with the entire wedding itself.