This era of Twitter, Facebook, Pinterest and hashtags, some additional social "rules" are being developed. And it is a wise couple that addresses the issues raised by social media before their wedding so that guests know their preferences in advance. It should not be stated on the formal wedding invitations. There is no line for "please unplug". However, it can be stated on the couple's wedding web page, printed on the programs, by a printed reminder posted at the guest book or even a part of an admonition from the celebrant at the ceremony.
As one wedding planner has said, "It's obviously not going to go away ---it's about managing it." "There are some large issues like when a friend share's a photo of the bride's dress when they are out shopping that are not appropriate. You always have the person who overshares." It is understandable that couples want to be able to control the images that go out there for their wedding.
Here are some hints from experienced wedding planners about how to manage social media etiquette.
- · Guests should refrain from taking photos during the ceremony. That has been a long standing rule and is not unique to this electronic age. The problem for today is the number of cameras in the room. At one time there were maybe 3 or 4 in addition to the professional photographer hired to capture those once in a lifetime opportunities. Now every guest with a phone has a camera. Spread the message widely.
- · Guests should be sensitive to the photos they do post. Photos should show the bride and groom in the best light. Save those candid shots of the bride or groom for the couple alone.
- · The bride and groom should both unplug for the day. Focusing on the events of the big day rather than checking messages or snapping photos should be the guiding theme. They should both agree on the social media stance. Guests should unplug during the ceremony.
- · It is an absolute no-no to show photos of the bride's gown before the wedding day. Even if a bridesmaid took photos in the fitting room while shopping with the bride, IT DOES NOT GO PUBLIC. Do not post!!!!
- · Do not post anything about the wedding without clearing it with the couple first. Honor the couple's privacy. It is common courtesy.
- · Unless you are a professional photographer hired by the couple, do not post video content on YouTube or other social media outlet.